Is it useful ?

Before you speak (or write), it is important to ask yourself this question. I struggle to do this most of the time. However, I hope that now that I’m writing about it, I’ll be forced to be more accountable to myself. And to you. The thing is that I talk so much that the words just roll out. Afterwards, I’m wondering why I said what I said at all. This is especially true when I have just completed a bout of complaints - a habit of which I am still trying to rid myself.

Is it useful?

This is one question that you should ask before your words hang useless, and maybe even destructive, in the air or cyber space.

Is it useful?

It is a question you should ask before a negative utterance makes someone else start to judge. Wow! He did that to you? What a bad person!And just like that, you’ve made someone else judgemental on your behalf.

Is it useful?

Is a necessary query to your conscience, one that involves the realisation that you probably don’t have all the facts, and even when you do, of what benefit are those facts to the people with whomyou are interacting?

Is it useful?

Is a question that I’ve been left with after I’m spent from saying, he is that way and she is this way and I can’t stand the way they both are.

How does it help?

How does it heal?

How does it inspire the betterment of the next person?

How does it make you focus less on another and more on yourself ?

Is it useful to you ?

Is it useful to anyone ?

If it isn’t ... don’t bother talking or writing about it.

Just let it go.

Love, 

O.F.P

8.11.20