A Letter to my Child

My Dear Child, 

I have not yet met the person with whom I will conceive you, but I write this letter to you anyway, because I do not believe I need to wait for your physical manifestation to communicate with you. I have this strong hope that my words will transcend realms and reach you, preparing you for the kind of person I hope you will be in this world. 

I have come to see that parenthood is not easy. Most parents do the best they can, even if that best may be damaging for some. Good parenting requires so much intentionality and focus. You have to be the person you hope your child will surpass, knowing that they are watching you all the time. It is not easy. 

In any case, I know childhood has its own difficulties. Everyone goes through their own struggles at every point in their life, none more or less important than the other. I hope that I will infuse into you some truths that will save you the time and pain of being deceived by the illusions of this world even as you learn many lessons through your own experiences. 

I do not have any particular order for my counsel. I think that each of these things is important in its own right. I hope that as you grow older, I will be able to teach you everyone of them by setting a good example in which you will see, for yourself, the benefit of following. I hope this even as I pray for you to be able to have a mind of your own, where you learn to see me do something that does not feel right to your insides, and have the boldness to say - “Mummy, no." I pray that I have the wisdom and humility to listen. 

There are many people that will try to tell you the best way to live your life. I am almost certain that I will be one of those people. This letter is the first example of that. However, I hope that you will carefully consider everything I do say here, and decide on its merit for yourself. So, I will add that, apart from listening for the purpose of learning different perspectives, develop the ability to listen to yourself first. That part of you that speaks without ration or reason, but from a place of genuine love and karmic experience. This part of you has learnt a lot of truth over multiple lifetimes. It is truth that is peculiar to your particular journey, and so it knows what is best for you, better than I, or any other human being ever will. 

Do not let people tell you how to value yourself. The world is upside down. It favours that which does not deserve favour, abandons the poor, further enriches the rich, and delights in the pain of others, especially if that pain will bring money. This is not a value system you should adopt. I hope you will learn that the greatest impact you will have on a person, is not so much the amount of money you can spend on or around them, but in the way you make them feel, and in your ability to recognise the shared humanity between you. You will see for yourself, that the people you appreciate the most are not those who spend money on you, but those who spend time with you and make you feel like you matter. Try to be that person for someone else - make them see that they matter, just by virtue of their being alive. 

I do not know if you will be a boy or a girl. It does not really matter, even as this issue seems to affect the female a lot more. Do not be fooled that your appearance means anything more than it really does, no matter how people might treat you because of it. Your body is merely a suit, a container, an intelligent shell in which your soul is embodied. It is a magnificent work of creation and it is your partner in this life. It will help you to do great things, if you let it. So take care of it, but do not obsess over it.  Do not place more value on it than it deserves, because a day will come when there is no difference between your body and the ground on which you step. I pray not to be around to witness that day, but it will come. You need to remember this and put things into perspective.

The perspective I want to share with you, is that there are some parts of you that will never die. And that goes back to your impact on people’s lives. Imagine this scenario. You say something that helps someone to see themselves in a new light and in doing so pass on this energy that makes them go on to do great things, which in turn affects other people, who affect other people, and so on and so forth. This is the way in which you will truly multiply. So, do not focus on being able to amass material things. They will be meaningless to you the instant you possess them. Trust me on this one. However, a smile you have created, or a song you have inspired, or the effects of a problem you have helped solve, will never die. And in that way, you become immortal and leave the world better than you met it. 

Nobody owes you anything. If you can accept this, it will save you so much energy that will otherwise have been spent on negative emotions. Nobody owes you anything. And the only thing you owe the world, is to be your full self. That you owe, because you freely benefit from nature as it is being itself- the sun shining, the rain failing, the wind blowing and so on. So too should others benefit from your being your true self.  The universe is always there to assist you in doing this, if only you let it. 

Treat every human being with respect. Say please. Say thank you. Take no one for granted. You are not better than anyone. And no one is better than you. Remember this. If you seek to outshine yourself every time, you will go so far, that even you will not believe it. Just keep going and pay no attention to what others are doing. The success of other people is the worst yardstick you can use for yourself. 

Remember that time is your friend. So do not fight it. Do not blame it. It works for and with you, not against you. If you want something today and it comes tomorrow, know that its coming today would have hastened your death. And if you want something tomorrow, and it comes today, know that you are ready for it. The fear inside your head is a lie. 

Never be afraid to say no. This is something I struggled with for a big part of my life. If God almighty can give you the freewill to say no, then no one has a right to demand your yes. You decide to give it, and when you do, give it freely, not because you are afraid of the alternative. Understand that when people ask you something, it is almost always for their own good. Perhaps apart from your parents, and definitely apart from God, most people are seeking their own good first, not necessarily yours. So before you say yes, remember that. There is the right to ask and there is the right to say no (or yes). You have both rights. Be responsible in using them. 

Don’t waste time doing something for someone else because you feel bad. You will imagine yourself a hero and become resentful when they do not treat you as such. I say it because it needs repeating. You have free will for a reason. Do not let anybody enslave you into making a decision you would not make if you were able to recognise your freedom. 

No matter what your circumstances say, God loves you. I think my unwavering belief in this fact helped me in a lot of my distressful times. He will show and tell you Himself in different ways. Do not be afraid to believe Him. His love is truth. 

Be responsible. And learn to avoid blaming other things or people. This is the best way to grow in life, by learning from and owning up to your mistakes. It keeps you humble and opens you up to so many opportunities. What you blame, you give power. So take that power for yourself by taking responsibility and step up to the space that you are so capable of occupying. 

Speaking of mistakes, the best way to guarantee your success is by welcoming mistakes and seeing them as your little helpers. A mistake is no more than a map to sustainable success. You can either use the map by learning from those mistakes, or discard it by being ashamed of, or worse, denying them. So, we will celebrate your failures as hard as we celebrate your successes. As long as you work hard and put in the effort, those two will be two sides of the same coin for you. So treasure all your coins, heads or tails. 

Have compassion for people, especially those who are suffering in one way or the other. Remember that suffering has different faces. It is not always about money, but more about experiences. So be kind and know that wherever you are, your light must shine and light up every dark space. 

If you find yourself wanting something from other people, it might mean that you are not giving it to yourself. So recognise your efforts. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself.  Affirm your value, your worth, and your right to be on this earth. Know that there is nothing you need in this life, that is not already inside you. The world will try to sell you the lie that reality is otherwise. They do not care about you, they only want your money. You can love yourself for free. Please, learn how to do so, because people will treat you only as well as you treat yourself. So set the standards high by being the best person you can be, to you. In this way, you will effortlessly treat others well. Be kind to yourself. 

I hope that by the time you come into this world, I will be practising these things so that this letter becomes completely redundant. Moreover, I pray that the wisdom with which you would have been instilled from the spiritual realm, will be readily available for your use, and that you will be blind to the illusions of the world, and attentive to the truth of your heart. 

This is all I have to say for now. 

With all my love,

OFP 

Your mother. 

25.05.2020